Friday, April 06, 2007

What is love?

I was wondering about this kind of 'relationship' for a long time. The reason being.. 'Every relationship in this world is as a result of some need. Only a few stays on even after the needs are satisifed!' Even the relationship between a mom and her child is for the reason that a woman wants to become a mom. The relationship continues even after the need is satisfied. The relationship between friends are for some reason. For e.g., doing projects, partying out, shopping, etc.. So does love!!

But then.. What is love?? In my perception, love is something divine... [not an usual dialogue]. In layman's language, as my ethics sir quotes, it is an umberalla virtue!! It encompasses in it care, affection, 'feeling' of doing anything and everything for the other, demanding things, controlled by and having control over others, sharing the joy, sorrow.. But then.. Very few realise the true real meaning of love!!

During school days.. Teacher would have taught us.. "Love thy parents.. Love thy neighbor!!". People take it differently and start loving the girl next door.. Here love stands for the chemistry-biology-history-geography-maths between a foolish boy and an intelligent girl or an intelligent boy and a foolish girl!!

But then.. U say u love ur dad.. mom.. brother/sister... and also.. ur lady love!! How come the meaning can differ between two different individuals?? Is the word "love" overloaded?? [as in oops!]. Well.. When u love ur parents, siblings and others.. Wont u love ur friend?? A friend of opposite sex?? [i cant use boy friend/girl friend for it stands for a different meaning.. which too is concerned with another overloaded meaning of love!!]. A girl can say "I love u" pointing to another girl.. But.. She cant say "I love u" to a boy who is her friend!! For the society.. the meaning differs!! Though neither she nor he would think so!! She could jus say "I like u!!".. where like stands for liking something in him.. his character, attitude, behavior, dressing sense.. watever!! Wat if i tell my friend, who happens to be a girl, "I love u!!"?? Will this society leave me to say so??

Why dont people think it as jus a feeling rather than some kind of relationship?? I know i've changed the meaning i've so far mentioned.. But.. love is a feeling rather than a relationship as perceived by many fools!! It's jus something like fear, anxiety, 'happyness' [inspired by the pursuit of happyness], joy, sorrow.. Whereas.. Friendship is a relationship!! Friendship encompasses love in it... Which when expressed in taken in a lot bad sense!!

And there are people who give 2 different spelling for love.. and two meanings also!! For them.. 'Love' refers to the chemistry-...-maths between two worthless stupids who have the feeling without knowing wat it is!! and 'Luv' refers to something between friends!! Hmmm.. Even oxford and cambridge couldnt provide such meaning.. The signature in a mail.. If it has 'with love'.. it's the bullshit.. If it is 'with luv'.. It's friendship!!!

And.. For Gautam Menon, director of Kaaka Kaaka, Patchai Kili Muthu Charam, he uses a different meaning!! If u had listened to Jothika's proposal to Suriya for the second time at the harbor.. She expresses a lot and says a particular english sentence too fast!! "I want to make love with u!!".. This is wat Sarathkumar often says to Andrea in PKMC.. Wat does he mean by love then?? Dont Gautam love his mom and dad?? The same thing with a woman who quoted love as a combination of affection and sex in kumudham!!!

Hmmm...

But there are people.. who want to avoid the word 'love' for these reasons!! One of my friends told me.. "Ennakku avalai pidikkum.. Avalai thaan kalyaanam pannikanum aasai padaraen!!.. But.. If u term this feeling to be wat many worthless idiots say as "love".. Am not for it!!.. " Hats off to him!!

Me caught in the illusions and delusions of the world.. For this worthless matter!!!

4 comments:

Ramya said...

Oh well Sriram! For once you have written sthing that induced many thoughts in me. 'Love' is ofcourse terribly 'overloaded'. And to explain in ur terms, one must have it over-riden and not bother about the other over-loaded versions.
And i like to differ at one point: Friendship is def a feeling too! And any damn thing on earth can be a Relationship!

Ramya said...

Oh well Sriram! For once you have written sthing that induced many thoughts in me. 'Love' is ofcourse terribly 'overloaded'. And to explain in ur terms, one must have it over-riden and not bother about the other over-loaded versions.
And i like to differ at one point: Friendship is def a feeling too! And any damn thing on earth can be a Relationship!

Ramya said...

And one more.. Love is divine?? Oh no!! If u mean to say sthing which menas that u love a person not for ur sake but for his\her.. i would def like to disagree.. Love - in whatever sense.. Is still a need.. one's selfish need :)
I am selfish and so is everyones else on earth!

Shiva said...

"For the society.. the meaning differs!! "

you hit the nail hard there... people often do this seeing our movies...but, every thing as you say is to a certain extent driven by need...

and one more thing, even for friendships to sustain, or for that matter any relationship, expectations should be minimum, quality time is important, words shouldn't be attached lofty meanings particularly one should be conscious of "ego" as people put it and finally, the full bloom is reached when words become rather unnecessary!!